These kids who have benefited from social-emotional learning from a charter school in Mar Vista, California have more of a grasp on what’s going on inside their mind than most adults do. Whether your brain feels like a jar of glitter being shaken up or you find a peaceful place and take deep breaths, we could all take a few notes from these mindfulness gurus themselves in the video, “Just Breathe” by Julie Bayer Salzman & Josh Salzman (Wavecrest Films)
Coffee-holics rejoice! There are multiple ways you can prevent Starbucks from eating your wallet whole while still getting the most out of your order. So drink up, and take on your day with confidence thanks to that extra boost of caffeine you can now enjoy, guilt free!
1) $2 Iced Lattes
Order a triple espresso over ice in a venti cup and pour the milk yourself at the condiment area!
2) Refills for 50 Cents
Understandably, sometimes one cup just doesn’t cut it, which is a problem no more because you can refill your cup with brewed coffee for just 50 cents during the same visit. Not a bad price for an extra pick-me-up.
3) Bring Your Own Cup
You will save a whopping 10 cents on your drink when you bring in your own reusable cup, mug, or travel tumbler, and if you’re the coffe-holic you claim to be, the savings will add up!
4) The Water Secret
Steer clear of reaching for those bottle of waters by the registers. In fact, the water they can provide for you may even be cleaner! Starbucks water and ice is triple-distilled!
5) Take Advantage of Your Birthday
If you sign up for Starbucks Rewards Program (which is free of charge), you can receive a free drink for you birthday as long as you redeem it within 30 days!
We all get that ‘gut feeling’ that tells you to either take that leap of faith, or to hold off, that something isn’t quite right. The intuit feeling is so unexplainable, but yet so understandable and it is a natural gift that will always be present, whether you’re in touch with it or not. Learn to maximize this gift by exploring habits from the highly intuitive from, Sophy Burnham, bestselling author of The Art of Intuition:
They listen to their inner voice
“It’s very easy to dismiss intuition,” says Burnham. “But it’s a great gift that needs to be noticed. ” The No. 1 thing that distinguishes intuitive people is that they listen to, rather than ignore, the guidance of their intuitions and gut feelings.
“Everybody is connected to their intuition, but some people don’t pay attention to it as intuition,” Burnham say. “I have yet to meet a successful businessman that didn’t say, ‘I don’t know why I did that, it was just a hunch.'”
In order to make our best decisions, we need a balance of intuition — which serves to bridge the gap between instinct and reasoning — and rational thinking, according to Francis Cholle, author of The Intuitive Compass. But the cultural bias against following one’s instinct or intuition often leads to disregarding our hunches — to our own detriment. “We don’t have to reject scientific logic in order to benefit from instinct,” says Cholle. “We can honor and call upon all of these tools, and we can seek balance. And by seeking this balance we will finally bring all of the resources of our brain into action.”
2. They take time for solitude
If you want to get in touch with your intuition, a little time alone may be the most effective way. Just as solitude can help give rise to creative thinking, it can also help us connect to our deepest inner wisdom.
Intuitive people are often introverted, according to Burnham. But whether you’re an introvert or not, taking time for solitude can help you engage in deeper thought and reconnect with yourself.
“You have to be able to have a little bit of solitude; a little bit of silence,” she says. “In the middle of craziness … you can’t recognize [intuition] above all of the noise of everyday life.”
In fact, creative people are highly intuitive, explains Burnham, and just as you can increase your creativity through practice, you can boost your intuition. In fact, practicing one may build up the other.
4. They practice mindfulness
Meditation and other mindfulness practices can be an excellent way to tap into your intuition. As the Search Inside Yourself Leadership Institute explains, “Mindfulness can help you filter out mental chatter, weigh your options objectively, tune into your intuition and ultimately make a decision that you can stand behind completely.”
Mindfulness can also connect you to your intuition by boosting self-knowledge.A 2013 study published in the journal Perspectives on Psychological Science showed that mindfulness — defined as “paying attention to one’s current experience in a non-judgmental way” — may help us to better understand our own personalities. “ “
When Friday rolls around and it’s finally payday, its all too common to whip out the plastic and buy that expensive shiny watch you’ve had your eye on the past two weeks… but its been proven money can’t buy you long term happiness; however, investing in experiences can. If you really think about it, ten years from now, you aren’t going to reminisce on the fact that you had the nicest watch out of all your friends; you’ll remember that trip you took to the beach with your best friend and the lasting memories you made you can still look back on.
“One of the enemies of happiness is adaptation,” says Dr. Thomas Gilovich, a psychology professor at Cornell University who has been studying the question of money and happiness for over two decades. “We buy things to make us happy, and we succeed. But only for a while. New things are exciting to us at first, but then we adapt to them.”
Gilovich’s findings are the synthesis of psychological studies conducted by him and others into the Easterlin paradox, which found that money buys happiness, but only up to a point. How adaptation affects happiness, for instance, was measured in a study that asked people to self-report their happiness with major material and experiential purchases. Initially, their happiness with those purchases was ranked about the same. But over time, people’s satisfaction with the things they bought went down, whereas their satisfaction with experiences they spent money on went up.
It’s counterintuitive that something like a physical object that you can keep for a long time doesn’t keep you as happy as long as a once-and-done experience does. Ironically, the fact that a material thing is ever present works against it, making it easier to adapt to. It fades into the background and becomes part of the new normal. But while the happiness from material purchases diminishes over time, experiences become an ingrained part of our identity.
“Our experiences are a bigger part of ourselves than our material goods,” says Gilovich. “You can really like your material stuff. You can even think that part of your identity is connected to those things, but nonetheless they remain separate from you. In contrast, your experiences really are part of you. We are the sum total of our experiences.”
One study conducted by Gilovich even showed that if people have an experience they say negatively impacted their happiness, once they have the chance to talk about it, their assessment of that experience goes up. Gilovich attributes this to the fact that something that might have been stressful or scary in the past can become a funny story to tell at a party or be looked back on as an invaluable character-building experience.
A victory is always so sweet that you don’t realize the pain of the game until you are on the other end of the stick. As you endure through life, it is next to impossible to dodge the bullet of defeat at some point. Whether it is the loss of a big business deal, or winning first place in this weekends competition, we don’t want you to ever lose sight of that glorious victory dance we know you’ve practiced a time or two. Below are 4 ways from Doug Sandler to handle defeat like the champ you are:
1)Learn a lesson. Use this opportunity (yes, there is opportunity in defeat) to reflect on what just happened. Did you lose the deal because you were unresponsive to your customer or was your pricing too high? Did you and your team deliver poor service or were you in over your head when you started? Take away from your defeat a lesson and try to keep it from happening in the future.
2) See the glass half full. Look at all the good things you are accomplishing. Be an optimist and get your head in the right place. You are taking risk when you step outside your comfort zone. Get uncomfortable, you will succeed. Stay positive, focused and happy. Your positive perception of a situation will help you stay upbeat. See the glass filled to the brim.
3) Every failure puts you one step closer to success. Play the odds and know they are now in your favor. If you have just experienced defeat, all is good, you are getting closer to success.
4) Believe in yourself. I saved this one for last because if all else fails believing in yourself will pull you through. I have experienced time and time again when the only thing holding me from defeat was faith in myself and the words, “I can do it.” You are strong enough, good enough and deserving of all scores in the win column.”
Read more from Doug Sandler here. He also has a best selling book, Nice Guys Finish First, available on Amazon in paperback, Kindle and Audible.
This unsung hero of calendars shows that everyday is a day to celebrate! Everything from National beans N’ Franks Day to National Nude Day (judgement free zone), this is your guide to day-to-day celebrations throughout December! Your welcome.
As if watching an 80’s workout video alone isn’t funny enough these days, this video to Taylor Swift’s upbeat song, ‘Shake It Off’ is synced way too perfectly to the 1988 National Aerobic Championship Opening. The prime of the 80’s workout prancing…I mean, dancing.
Warning: As much as this video makes you want to groove, please keep the scrunchies and unitards in the box in the garage.